The Single Relationship
Blog dedicated to improving and maintaining stable relationships.
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Photo reblogged from Thank you, God.
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Photo reblogged from Stay Classy.
Arguing In A relationship
- Embrace conflict. There is no need to fear it. Conflict is normal, even healthy. Differences between you mean that there are things you can learn from each other. Often conflict shows us where we can or need to grow.
- Go after the issue, not each other. Friendly fighting sticks with the issue. Neither party resorts to name calling or character assassination. It’s enough to deal with the problem without adding the new problem of hurting each other’s feelings.
- Listen respectfully. When people feel strongly about something, it’s only fair to hear them out. Respectful listening means acknowledging their feelings, either verbally or through focused attention. It means never telling someone that he or she “shouldn’t” feel that way. It means saving your point of view until after you’ve let the other person know you understand that they feel intensely about the subject, even if you don’t quite get it.
- Talk softly. The louder someone yells, the less likely they are to be heard. Even if your partner yells, there’s no need to yell back. Taking the volume down makes it possible for people to start focusing on the issues instead of reacting to the noise.
- Get curious, not defensive. Defending yourself, whether by vehemently protesting your innocence or rightness or by turning the tables and attacking, escalates the fight. Instead of upping the ante, ask for more information, details, and examples. There is usually some basis for the other person’s complaint. When you meet a complaint with curiosity, you make room for understanding.
- Find points of agreement. There almost always are parts of a conflict that can be points of agreement. Finding common ground, even if it’s agreeing that there is a problem, is an important start to finding a common solution.
- Look for options. Fighting ends when cooperation begins. Asking politely for suggestions or alternatives invites collaboration. Careful consideration of options shows respect. Offering alternatives of your own shows that you also are willing to try something new.
- Make concessions. Small concessions can turn the situation around. If you give a little, it makes room for the other person to make concessions too. Small concessions lead to larger compromises. Compromise doesn’t have to mean that you’re meeting each other exactly 50-50. Sometimes it’s a 60-40 or even 80-20 agreement. This isn’t about scorekeeping. It’s about finding a solution that is workable for both of you.
- Make peace. Agree that the relationship is more important than winning arguments. Sometimes this means staying up very, very late until both of you come to a workable compromise.
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Photo reblogged from My Standards
Can i marry your daughter and make her my wife? I want her to be the only girl that I love for the rest of my life. Give her the best of me ‘til the day that i die. I’m gonna marry your princess and make her my queen. She’ll be the most beautiful bride that I’ve ever seen. I can’t wait to smile when she walks down the aisle, on the arm of her father on the day that I marry your daughter.
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Post reblogged from With All Deliberate Speed.
- Whatever you do, don’t just show up at their house…they run around in their underwear just like we do.
- Don’t cheat on them. It may seem foolproof, but girls tell each other everything about everything. Trust me, they WILL find out.
- Beware of every single male relative and all guy friends. Any of them would kick your butt at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them wouldn’t even wait for the dang hat.
- Never miss an opportunity to tell them they’re beautiful.
- Don’t refuse to kiss in front of your friends. If they laugh at you, it’s because they’re jealous.
- If they slap you hard, you deserved it.
- Don’t be afraid to touch them if you want to. If they’re going out with you in the first place, it’s because they like being in your arms.
- Not all of them eat like birds, a lot of them can eat like whales.
- Do you honestly need all your money that much? Be a man, pay all the time!
- Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend- a stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts, and a really pretty ring. Even if it’s not a serious relationship.
- Make sure she gets home safely as often as you can. If you’re dropping her off, walk her to the door. If you aren’t dropping her off, call to be sure she’s home safely.
- If a guy is bothering her, it is your right to kick the you know what out of him. Maybe not literally, but do what it takes to make it stop.
- If you’re talking to a female friend of yours, pull your girlfriend closer.
- Never, ever slap her, even if it’s just in a joking way. Even if she swats you first, and says, “Oh, you’re so dumb” or something, never make any gestures back.
- Go to a chick flick once in a while. She doesn’t care whether you enjoy it or not, it just matters that you went.
- You’re dead meat if you can’t get along with their pets, parents and best friends. Be prince charming to their friends, Mr. Polite to their parents, and make sure to be nice to their animals.
- Don’t flirt with their moms…that’s just freaky.
- If you don’t like the way they drive, you do it.
- If you’re officially dating, and you’re introducing her to your friends, you better be introducing her as your girlfriend.
- Don’t stress where you go for every date. They really only want to be with you.
- If they complain that something hurts, rub it for them without being asked.
- Girls are fragile. Even if you’re play fighting/wrestling, be very gentle.
- Memorize their birthdays for goodness sakes. You forget her birthday and you’re basically screwed for life.
- Don’t marinade the cologne, but smell good.
- Don’t give her something stupid for her birthday or Christmas or Valentine’s day. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it has to be meaningful.
- If you think the relationship isn’t going to last, don’t wait to find out. It will only hurt you more if you draw it out.
- After you’ve been dating for a while, realize that they really have started to trust you. When you have a girlfriend who truly trusts you, you have a lot more responsibility, privilege and control than you would think. Be careful with it, most guys would kill for that kind of power, and it can be lost in a nanosecond.
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Post reblogged from Abby Quincena
Focus on looks and appearance, you will attract someone who loves you for your appearance and who is probably just as vain.
Focus on being holy and righteous, you will attract a holy and righteous mate.
